Jordan has become quite violent lately, but only towards me. I'm not sure if any of you other moms have had a problem like this, if so, I would love to hear your advice and comments! If I tell Jordan "No" or if I don't let him do something he wants he scratches my neck or slaps my face. Yesterday he leaned in and bit my lips! I know he likes my reaction because he will yell, "OW, OW!" while he's inflicting pain. He doesn't lash out at other kids or even Benji, but I would like to stop the behavior before he does! I don't know what to do! AAAAhhhhhhh!
Looks like he couldn't hurt a fly, huh!?
Looks like he couldn't hurt a fly, huh!?
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Lincoln and Daniel get a taste of vinegar when they deliberately do something to hurt someone else. I just dip my finger in the jar and then touch it to the inside of the cheek, towards the back-- and then (of course) immediately provide them with a glass of water so they can rinse it out.
I was reluctant to start using a method like that, since I'm not exactly a big fan of the "you just hurt someone, so now I'll hurt you" way of doing things-- which is how I saw spanking when I was on the recieving end of it. But the truth is, Daniel needs some sort of physical intervention when he behaves that way. We'd tried time-outs in his room, restraining him on our laps for a time out, losing priveleges, etc. but nothing seemed to have any impact on his behavior. They both seem to be doing better since we started using vinegar, but it's hard to know if it's the vinegar, or if they're just outgrowing it.
I think that the one important thing, no matter what "method" works for you, is to explain to the kid that what he/she just did is wrong and why. "That hurts me when you hit. It is not okay to hit other people. When you hit we have to (insert consequence)."
If it's any consolation, he'll probably just outgrow this...
Ignore it.
yikes! Let me know what you figure out, so I will know what to do in a year! :)
I am with Ashley, the more attention he gets the more likely he is to do it, so just put him down. Tell his that what he did is wrong and then walk away. From a "behaviorist" point of view try rewarding the good behavior and ignoring the bad before you move to punishment. If ignoring doesn't work I would try a time out. Good luck, happens to the best of us & there is plenty more parenting fun to come.
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